Two New Things This Weekend: Chromebook and Finalized Divorce
My first blog post from my new Chromebook--my first writing from the machine of any kind, actually. I kinda love the Chromebook so far. I was discouraged for a little bit due to syncing issues--Google syncing is one of the biggest sells for me. But I'm a pretty big Google-phile in general. My Nexus tablet should be arriving any day. Also, anything that will facilitate the ease of the writing process = good.
Productivity is my new primary motivation...and kind of my main thing right now. Something I have been building up to for a while.
But I have been putting the vast majority of my time and mental energies into divorce-related issues for...longer than I care to think about. My beard--when I have one--has responded by dramatically increasing its grey hairs output.
But the divorce is now...done and done.
Yes. I am O-fficially divorced.
It's so new I'm not really sure what my thoughts and feelings are about it yet. I do feel somewhat more of a sense of self-ownership and control. The past year has really just been a crazy time of turmoil, stress, transition, and fights with my ex. While I do think she is ridiculous and self-centered, it was a pretty mild divorce. There were were plenty of rough edges, but as far as divorce conflicts go---especially when children are involved--I would say ours is on the less-chaotic end of the divorce chaos spectrum.
I went out with some work buddies last night to celebrate. They are actually my only friends I have in this town, which is pretty depressing. It was also one of my few social outings since taking on the single-parenting gig in a new town by myself in June. Also pretty depressing. But at the same time, I take a certain amount of pride in that. My focus since my ex and I separated has been my boys. And, of course my job. Balancing the two entailed a large learning curve. I barely had time for anything else. Money has been tight. But things are continuing to stabilize--which has taken a lot of intentional effort, re-evaluation, and persistence...among other things.
The finalization of the divorce is an official end to a process and goal I have been working toward for a long time. And it signals a new start and a sort of new mandate to get back out there. Become a social presence in the world outside of my work sphere. And dare I say it...get back into the dating game. I feel ready now. I would classify myself as a pretty damn eligible and marketable bachelor. Even though my ex jumped into the dating/new relationship game before she even informed me she wanted a divorce, I found it hard to see someone else. I sometimes wanted to out of, I don't know...spite? Revenge? Guilt? Loneliness? One-upmanship? All the wrong reasons. And, as I have said in the past, my main relationship during the transition was with my boys. They needed me to focus on them. The transition was and still is hard on them. I don't think my ex will ever truly understand that. She did not come from a broken home like I did. She can be oh so conveniently short-sighted. They are why I work really hard to make sure they get plenty of time with their mother...and also why I worked to make sure I retained residential custody.
I finally feel like my psyche is catching up with this new reality. It is my new norm. Being married is becoming a thing of the past that happened to a person who is no longer the same person I am now.
On the agenda today: getting my house back in order, more vitas, and catching up on some work...and tinkering with my new Chromebook.
I'm still getting use to working on it. I hope it's the start of a great new relationship (just as an old relationship has officially and legally ended).
I bought it used for really cheap, and it's only a year old. It was marked down because a newer version is coming out soon (see also ripoff). This is a bargain on so many levels. With cloud computing and the ability to access Google drive even when I don't have an internet connection (which is almost never), the thought of paying normal laptop prices is nothing less than a huge waste of money. There is virtually nothing I can't do on a "normal" computer that I can do on Chromebook. Plus, I have plenty of access to non-Chromebook computers when/if I need it.
Productivity is my new primary motivation...and kind of my main thing right now. Something I have been building up to for a while.
But I have been putting the vast majority of my time and mental energies into divorce-related issues for...longer than I care to think about. My beard--when I have one--has responded by dramatically increasing its grey hairs output.
But the divorce is now...done and done.
Yes. I am O-fficially divorced.
It's so new I'm not really sure what my thoughts and feelings are about it yet. I do feel somewhat more of a sense of self-ownership and control. The past year has really just been a crazy time of turmoil, stress, transition, and fights with my ex. While I do think she is ridiculous and self-centered, it was a pretty mild divorce. There were were plenty of rough edges, but as far as divorce conflicts go---especially when children are involved--I would say ours is on the less-chaotic end of the divorce chaos spectrum.
I went out with some work buddies last night to celebrate. They are actually my only friends I have in this town, which is pretty depressing. It was also one of my few social outings since taking on the single-parenting gig in a new town by myself in June. Also pretty depressing. But at the same time, I take a certain amount of pride in that. My focus since my ex and I separated has been my boys. And, of course my job. Balancing the two entailed a large learning curve. I barely had time for anything else. Money has been tight. But things are continuing to stabilize--which has taken a lot of intentional effort, re-evaluation, and persistence...among other things.
The finalization of the divorce is an official end to a process and goal I have been working toward for a long time. And it signals a new start and a sort of new mandate to get back out there. Become a social presence in the world outside of my work sphere. And dare I say it...get back into the dating game. I feel ready now. I would classify myself as a pretty damn eligible and marketable bachelor. Even though my ex jumped into the dating/new relationship game before she even informed me she wanted a divorce, I found it hard to see someone else. I sometimes wanted to out of, I don't know...spite? Revenge? Guilt? Loneliness? One-upmanship? All the wrong reasons. And, as I have said in the past, my main relationship during the transition was with my boys. They needed me to focus on them. The transition was and still is hard on them. I don't think my ex will ever truly understand that. She did not come from a broken home like I did. She can be oh so conveniently short-sighted. They are why I work really hard to make sure they get plenty of time with their mother...and also why I worked to make sure I retained residential custody.
I finally feel like my psyche is catching up with this new reality. It is my new norm. Being married is becoming a thing of the past that happened to a person who is no longer the same person I am now.
On the agenda today: getting my house back in order, more vitas, and catching up on some work...and tinkering with my new Chromebook.
I'm still getting use to working on it. I hope it's the start of a great new relationship (just as an old relationship has officially and legally ended).
I bought it used for really cheap, and it's only a year old. It was marked down because a newer version is coming out soon (see also ripoff). This is a bargain on so many levels. With cloud computing and the ability to access Google drive even when I don't have an internet connection (which is almost never), the thought of paying normal laptop prices is nothing less than a huge waste of money. There is virtually nothing I can't do on a "normal" computer that I can do on Chromebook. Plus, I have plenty of access to non-Chromebook computers when/if I need it.
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