More Cover Letters: In Search of a Possible Non-Existent Ideal
I sent another out today. The last couple, including one I got called in for an interview for, didn't pan out (obviously).
My hopes aren't incredibly high for this one. Plus, I have been at my current position for over a couple years now, and I am feeling pretty confident and good about my work. I am also moving into more leadership roles. It's an excellent institution as well (in a currently uncertain higher education job market).
One of my main motivators for seeking positions elsewhere is my boys (they are basically the main motivators for most things in my life).
I would love a job closer to their mother. It would make life easier for all of us. And it would be the best scenarios for my little men. More contact with their mother. She and I also wouldn't have to be so...hard-lined about custody and living arrangement issues. It could be a more fluid thing. We would still need a formal custody agreement (of course), but living closer to is just an ideal that I have built up in my head as...ideal.
But maybe that wouldn't necessarily be the case. It's hard to tell. While she does love our boys, my feeling is she doesn't necessarily love being a mother. I could be off base her, but I'm not sure how I could conclude otherwise. She has chosen a life and a lifestyle that does include her children being around all the time.
Prediction: In the summer (and for the summer only), we are supposed to switch our arrangements: she will have the boys during the week, and I will have them on the weekends. That won't happen. They will still be with me during the week next summer as well.
My hopes aren't incredibly high for this one. Plus, I have been at my current position for over a couple years now, and I am feeling pretty confident and good about my work. I am also moving into more leadership roles. It's an excellent institution as well (in a currently uncertain higher education job market).
One of my main motivators for seeking positions elsewhere is my boys (they are basically the main motivators for most things in my life).
I would love a job closer to their mother. It would make life easier for all of us. And it would be the best scenarios for my little men. More contact with their mother. She and I also wouldn't have to be so...hard-lined about custody and living arrangement issues. It could be a more fluid thing. We would still need a formal custody agreement (of course), but living closer to is just an ideal that I have built up in my head as...ideal.
But maybe that wouldn't necessarily be the case. It's hard to tell. While she does love our boys, my feeling is she doesn't necessarily love being a mother. I could be off base her, but I'm not sure how I could conclude otherwise. She has chosen a life and a lifestyle that does include her children being around all the time.
Prediction: In the summer (and for the summer only), we are supposed to switch our arrangements: she will have the boys during the week, and I will have them on the weekends. That won't happen. They will still be with me during the week next summer as well.
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